Andazi ukuba abazali baye bafumanisa ukuba xa umntwana emalunga neminyaka emi-2 ubudala, ngequbuliso uya kuba nomdla ngakumbi abembi.Ngokukodwa, inkwenkwe ayinakukwazi ukugxila ekudlaleni imidlalo ngamaxesha aqhelekileyo, kodwa xa idibana nomqhubi osebenzayo endleleni, imizuzu engama-20 yokubukela ayanele.Ayisiyiyo loo nto kuphela, kodwa iintsana ziyazithanda iithoyi zeemoto zobunjineli ezifana nabembi.Ukuba abazali bababuza ukuba bafuna ukwenza ntoni xa bekhulile, banokufumana impendulo ethi "umqhubi we-excavator".
Kutheni iintsana ehlabathini lonke zibonakala zikhetha ama-excavators?Kwisikhululo sepetroli sakule mpelaveki, umhleli uzakuthetha nabazali malunga nolwazi oluncinci olubangela “umfo omkhulu”.Umntu ombiyo unokunceda abazali baliqonde ngakumbi ihlabathi langaphakathi lomntwana.
Kutheni iintsana zithanda ama-excavators?
1. Yanelisa "umnqweno wokutshabalalisa" womntwana
Kwi-psychology, abantu ngokwemvelo banobundlobongela kwaye bayonakalisa, kwaye impembelelo "yokutshabalalisa" ivela kwithuku.Ngokomzekelo, imidlalo yevidiyo emininzi abantu abadala abathanda ukuyidlala ayinakwahlulwa kungquzulwano nohlaselo.
"Intshabalalo" ikwayenye yeendlela zeentsana zokuphonononga ihlabathi.Abazali banokufumanisa ukuba xa abantwana abamalunga ne-2 yeminyaka ubudala bedlala ngeebhloko zokwakha, abasaneliseki kulonwabo lweebhloko zokwakha.Bakhetha ukutyhala iibhloko zokwakha ngokuphindaphindiweyo.Ukutshintsha kwesandi kunye nesakhiwo sezinto ezibangelwa ukutyhala phantsi kweebhloko zokwakha kuya kuvuselela umntwana ukuba abone ngokuphindaphindiweyo, kwaye abenze bafumane imvakalelo yokuzonwabisa kunye nempumelelo.
Ngeli xesha, iintsana zabonisa umdla omkhulu kumathoyizi anokushenxiswa kwaye babethanda ukuwavula nokuzijika.Ezi ziphatha "zonakalisayo" ngokwenene ziyimbonakaliso yokuphuhliswa kwengqondo kunye nokucinga kweentsana.Baqonda ukubunjwa kwezinto ngokuqhaqha ngokuphindaphindiweyo kunye nokuhlanganisana, kwaye bahlolisise ubudlelwane be-causal yokuziphatha.
Indlela umba osebenza ngayo kunye namandla awo amakhulu atshabalalisayo ayanelisa “umnqweno wokutshabalala” wosana ngokweemvakalelo, yaye esi “rhamncwa” sikhulu esinokwenza isandi esigqumayo sinokuwuvusa ngokulula umdla womntwana size sitsale amehlo alo.
2. Imvakalelo yokulawula kunye namandla ahambelana nomnqweno womntwana
Emva kokuhluma kokuziqonda komntwana, uya kuthanda kakhulu ukuthi "musa" kwaye uhlala elwa nabazali bakhe.Ngamanye amaxesha, nokuba ukulungele ukuphulaphula abazali bakhe, kufuneka athi "musa" kuqala.Kweli nqanaba, umntwana ukholelwa ukuba unokwenza yonke into njengabazali bakhe.Ufuna ukwenza yonke into yedwa.Uzama ukufumana ukuzimela ngezenzo ezithile kwaye abonise amandla akhe kubazali bakhe.
Ngengqiqo yokulawula izinto ezingqongileyo, umntwana uya kuziva ukuba ungumntu ozimeleyo.Ngoko ke, kwinqanaba lokulangazelela ingqiqo yokulawula kunye namandla, umntwana utsalwa ngokulula ngamandla abonakaliswe yi-excavator.UGqr. Carla Marie Manly, isazi ngengqondo saseMerika, ukholelwa ukuba isizathu sokuba iintsana zithande iinguqulelo zezinto zokudlala zezinto ezinkulu ezikhulu kusenokwenzeka kukuba ziziva zinemvakalelo enamandla yokulawula namandla obuqu ngokuba nazo ezi nguqulelo zincinane.
Enyanisweni, abazali banokufumanisa ukuba iintsana azinamdla kuphela kwi-excavators, njenge-dinosaurs, i-Monkey King, ama-superheroes, amakhosazana e-Disney, kodwa bathanda le mifanekiso enamandla okanye emihle.Ngokukodwa xa ungena kwinqanaba lokuchongwa (ngokuqhelekileyo malunga neminyaka emi-4), umntwana uya kudla ngokudlala okanye acinge ukuba ungumlinganiswa oyintandokazi okanye isilwanyana.Ngenxa yokuba usana aluzange luqokelele amava aneleyo nobuchule xa lufuna ukuzimela, yaye ukukhula kwalo ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo akukakhuli, akunakukwazi ukwenza izinto ezininzi.Kwaye imifanekiso eyahlukeneyo kwiikhathuni okanye kwimisebenzi yoncwadi inokuhlangabezana neemfuno zabo ngokwasengqondweni zokuba bomelele kwaye babe nkulu, kwaye inokuzisa umntwana imvakalelo yokhuseleko.
Ixesha lokuposa: Sep-22-2022